Learn to be more selfish.

Hey girlies,

Why is it that you’re always putting other people first? Always trying to make others happy at the expense of your own happiness?

Girlie pop...aren’t you tired?

...tired of trying to be everything for everyone?

…tired of feeling like you’re living just to make others happy?

I’ve been living my best life ever since I started prioritizing my own needs and feelings, and I want to encourage you to do the same.

Start being a little more selfish.

Being selfish doesn’t mean trampling over people to get where you need to go; it simply means you are prioritizing your own needs and ambitions because you value yourself.

Even on flights, when they give you the safety instructions, they tell you to put your own mask on before helping others. Even if you have the kindest heart, you need to take care of yourself first before taking care of anyone else. How can you expect to pour into others with an empty cup, right?

Stop caring what others think.

Those who guilt you into thinking that choosing your own needs and happiness first makes you a bad person are probably the ones who can no longer benefit from you. They can no longer manipulate you and take advantage. So, if anything…you dodged a bullet!

Being selfish will actually save your life.

Imagine yourself in Cinderella’s shoes: doing the most for everyone, being the housemaid, the personal chef, the assistant, etc. The girl nearly broke her back, and even she chose to ditch the evil stepfamily when she had the opportunity, and she went on to live her happily ever after.

Do you really want to continuously feel drained, always feeling like you’re breaking your back for others? You’re shouldering responsibility that isn’t yours. Just because you can do everything doesn’t mean you should.

Act dumb.

One of the best tricks I’ve come to master is acting dumb. If there’s something I don’t want to do, I pretend like I don’t know how to do it, or do it just badly enough so that I’m not asked again. Give it a try.

Or you don’t have to act dumb; you can simply say you don’t want to. If you want, you can give an explanation, but remember that "no" is a full sentence as well.

Prioritizing yourself starts with your mindset

If you’re someone who struggles with putting themselves first, I understand where you are coming from because I’ve been in the same place before. However, when you are constantly putting other people's needs above your own, you’re actually placing more value on their needs and feelings above yours.

But if you’re constantly looking out for others, who’s going to look out for you? You need to take care of yourself first, and you need to value yourself, for no reason other than you simply deserve it.

You deserve to be happy. You deserve to be valued. You deserve to have your needs met.

Ending thoughts…

I was watching a YouTube video, and I remember the creator saying something along the lines of this: “You are not brought into this earth to suffer; that is not your life purpose.” It was a reminder that has always stuck with me, and one that I would like to share with you.

I hope that after today’s little rant, you start valuing your own needs and happiness more, start prioritizing it better, and of course, start to be a little more selfish.

Xoxo,

It Girl Playbook 💋

P.S. Taking care of everyone’s needs is stressful, and stress makes you ugly. So by default, being selfish also makes you hotter.

P.P.S. This is not a scientific fact but is a (VERY) strong personal belief that should probably be taken (very) seriously!