Very First Newsletter

Hey girlie,

This is my first email newsletter. While this is a bit of a test, my plan is to share weekly insights and lessons that I hope will inspire and support you in your It Girl Era.

I’m personally going through some transitions in life, where I am moving out from home. In my culture, it’s not very common for girls to move out before marriage. However, for my mental and emotional health, this felt like a much needed step.

Perhaps you can resonate with this: I’ve always struggled with the desire to be a good child, a good daughter. I will try my best to make my parents happy, make them proud, and make their lives easier, even if it was at the expense of myself.

I am not trying to blame my parents; I believe they did the best they could with what they had and knew. They did a good job raising me and providing for me. But not everyone is perfect, no matter how bad we may want them to be sometimes.

They say that before you are a people pleaser, you were a parent pleaser. I worked hard to not be a people pleaser anymore, but I feel like I’m still stuck being a parent pleaser. It came to a point where it felt like either I was happy or they were happy. I felt like I’m always guilted into doing more and being more for them, and as I result I was constantly exhausted, drained, unfulfilled. I want them to be happy, but in order to fill their cup I need to fill mine first, and so I chose to distance myself so that I can better prioritize myself.

So the lesson I learned from all of this, that I would like to share with you, is that sometimes distance is good. Setting boundaries for your own well-being does not make you a bad person. People may say that you’re selfish…and?

If wanting the best for YOUR OWN LIFE makes you selfish, then so be it. But it does not make you a bad person. It’s not your job to be everything to everyone.

Talk soon,

It Girl Playbook 💋